Here are some facts:

• 31% of couples take a premarital relationship education program (Stanley et al., 2006).

• Only 19% of couples actually seek out some form of couples therapy and only 37% of divorced couples worked with a professional prior to signing the papers (Johnson et al, 2002).

• The average couple waits six years before seeking professional help for marital problems (Gottman, 2009).

Part of this may be due to the stigma against couples therapy and ignoring the early signs. Below are just a few examples of this and how it can impact your relationship: 

• Thinking that going to couples therapy means that we, as a couple, are not strong enough to work through issues on our own. That there is something inherently wrong in our marriage. It’s a “shame-game” based on what friends and family will think. 

• Pretending the issues don’t exist and avoiding admitting responsibility, severity of the problem and not confronting problems that arise in the relationship. Examples include nasty fights, emotional disconnection, or an affair. 

• Convincing ourselves that the real problem is our partner. So why go to therapy when they are the reason this marriage sucks? (Hint: Every relationship requires two people and so inevitably you are also involved directly or indirectly). 

• Believing the myth that “if love takes work, then it wasn’t meant to be.” A no-effort relationship is not a great relationship because it will lack growth. It’s doomed for failure. Dr. John Gottman says, “Every [relationship] demands an effort to keep it on the right track; there is constant tension…between forces that hold you together and those that tear you apart.”

Not pursuing relationship coaching when there are underlying emotions and issues that are wreaking havoc on your relationship’s emotional connection and each partner’s wellbeing can create bigger and more serious obstacles to overcome in the future. It’s like a large boulder rolling out of control downhill. The farther it rolls, the more damage it causes and the harder it is to push it back to its original place.

What is your health, happiness and relationship worth to you? How much will it cost you later when the problem get's worse and coaching is no longer a viable option? How much money will you need to pay towards divorce, mental and emotional health and healing?

Timing is everything. According to relationship and marriage expert Dr. John Gottman, couples wait an average of six years of being unhappy before getting help. Can you really afford to wait longer than you already have?

Let's start with a 60-minute session to diagnose the problem and create an action plan and where you want to be. No strings attached. This session is about narrowing down the root causes and the real underlying issues so you can decide how to handle it. Whether you choose to take a deeper dive with myself and an outcome oriented approach or choose someone else to do that with, is totally up to you, there's no pressure. You can walk away having a better idea of your fears, root problems and a clear idea of what to do next.

These sessions are only available in between my regular clients and I only take on 10 clients at any one time. I like to work with people who are serious about getting results and ready to take action. That's why I focus on smaller groups at a time.

You will gain clarity and understanding of why your partner behaves the way they do and how to project the best genuine version of yourself. Imagine being able to go back to how things were when you first met and there wasn't any issues. Now, think about what it would mean to go back there with new found wisdom to keep you there indefinitely.

You'll learn about mating strategies based on evolutionary biology and psychology that only a small percentage of people use daily. This will teach you what you need to know to create genuine desire and attraction from your partner. You'll learn about your own nature as well as your partner's so you can understand the differences in how they communicate, love, show commitment, show respect and vulnerability.