Private 1-2-1 Coaching
Don't just transform your relationships. Transform your life.
Research shows empirically-based couples therapy has demonstrated that couples therapy can create a positive change for 70% of couples. And these changes actually last (Lebow et al., 2011).
For a completely personal, private, in-depth and confidential look at your specific issues, I offer high level coaching sessions with package options by Skype, Zoom or Instagram. To get you started I recommend you book a 60 mins session to see what your actual problem is and to see if we are a good fit for a deeper dive. If I believe I can help, you'll get an outline of an action plan for a deep dive. By the end of the session you will have a clear idea of the root cause of your problem.
DISPEL COMMON MYTHS AND CONCERNS ABOUT COACHING & COUPLES THERAPY
Here are some facts:
31% of couples take a premarital relationship education program (Stanley et al., 2006).
Only 19% of couples actually seek out some form of couples therapy and only 37% of divorced couples worked with a professional prior to signing the papers (Johnson et al, 2002).
The average couple waits six years before seeking professional help for marital problems (Gottman, 2009).
Part of this may be due to the stigma against couples therapy and ignoring the early signs. Below are just a few examples of this and how it can impact your relationship:
Thinking that going to couples therapy means that we, as a couple, are not strong enough to work through issues on our own. That there is something inherently wrong in our marriage. It’s a “shame-game” based on what friends and family will think.
Pretending the issues don’t exist and avoiding admitting responsibility, severity of the problem and not confronting problems that arise in the relationship. Examples include nasty fights, emotional disconnection, or an affair.
Convincing ourselves that the real problem is our partner. So why go to therapy when they are the reason this marriage sucks? (Hint: Every relationship requires two people and so inevitably you are also involved directly or indirectly).
Believing the myth that “if love takes work, then it wasn’t meant to be.” A no-effort relationship is not a great relationship because it will lack growth. It’s doomed for failure. Dr. John Gottman says, “Every [relationship] demands an effort to keep it on the right track; there is constant tension…between forces that hold you together and those that tear you apart.”
Not pursuing relationship coaching when there are underlying emotions and issues that are wreaking havoc on your relationship’s emotional connection and each partner’s wellbeing can create bigger and more serious obstacles to overcome in the future. It’s like a large boulder rolling out of control downhill. The farther it rolls, the more damage it causes and the harder it is to push it back to its original place.
MY 1-2-1 COACHING PACKAGES
What is your health, happiness and relationship worth to you? How much will it cost you later when the problem get's worse and coaching is no longer a viable option? How much money will you need to pay towards divorce, mental and emotional health and healing?
Timing is everything. According to relationship and marriage expert Dr. John Gottman, couples wait an average of six years of being unhappy before getting help. Can you really afford to wait longer than you already have?
1 x 60-min session coaching
1 session over the phone, by Instagram Video, Zoom or Skype
1 month of coaching
4 sessions of 60 mins over Instagram Video, Zoom or Skype
2 months of coaching
8 sessions of 60 mins over Instagram Video, Zoom or Skype
3 months of coaching
12 sessions of 60 mins over Instagram Video, Zoom or Skype
How to Get Started
Let's start with a 60-minute session to diagnose the problem and create an action plan and where you want to be. No strings attached. This session is about narrowing down the root causes and the real underlying issues so you can decide how to handle it. Whether you choose to take a deeper dive with myself and an outcome oriented approach or choose someone else to do that with, is totally up to you, there's no pressure. You can walk away having a better idea of your fears, root problems and a clear idea of what to do next.
These sessions are only available in between my regular clients and I only take on 10 clients at any one time. I like to work with people who are serious about getting results and ready to take action. That's why I focus on smaller groups at a time.
FIXING A PROBLEM ALWAYS REQUIRES TAKING ACTION!
You must be a person who genuinely wants to fix their problem and their relationship
You must have the willingness and possibility to invest in yourself
You must be open to accepting harsh truths and take accountability with intellectual honesty
You must be someone who's willing to do what's necessary to gain your happiness
You are ready to grow and develop yourself to the best version of yourself
You will gain clarity and understanding of why your partner behaves the way they do and how to project the best genuine version of yourself. Imagine being able to go back to how things were when you first met and there wasn't any issues. Now, think about what it would mean to go back there with new found wisdom to keep you there indefinitely.
You'll learn about mating strategies based on evolutionary biology and psychology that only a small percentage of people use daily. This will teach you what you need to know to create genuine desire and attraction from your partner. You'll learn about your own nature as well as your partner's so you can understand the differences in how they communicate, love, show commitment, show respect and vulnerability.
If you feel coaching isn't for you right now but maybe at a later date, then alternatively you can purchase my two books to get you started on understanding male and female nature. REMEMBER! the longer you wait to fix your issues, the more costly it often gets.
My books have been written to help you navigate your own and your partner's needs and to understand why marriage problems occur in the first place. Why we fall out of love, why we defect, why we break up and why we cheat. By learning how to prevent breakups, you'll learn how to keep your marriage together.
It's very easy to say "what's the point?" But you wouldn't be here if you didn't believe there is something that could be done. You've seen other people do it. You're tired of the wait, the pain and the hurt.
Einstein said, “We Cannot Solve Our Problems With the Same Thinking We Used to Create them.”
I’ll tell you right now, if I did nothing back in 2009 I would have been in the same place as I was back then. I was just a regular guy from a Southeast Asian community, brought up with a limited understanding of my beliefs that were narrow minded, restricted and so controlling, that I was sacrificing my happiness without even knowing it.
I was unhappy and afraid in all areas of my life even though I was committed to my religion, to my family and to my culture. Here's the thing, the more I learned, the more empowered I became in my personal beliefs, potentials and my perception.
It was only when I decided to get off the seat of nails and find a cushion of feathers that life began to get better. Now, I have a career that I love and a passion to help others get past their problems too. Why? Because I know what you're going through. The longer you hold off, the longer someone else is writing your story.